Setting Goals After Divorce

Setting Goals After Divorce: Why It’s Crucial to the Process

Divorce is often seen as an ending, but it’s also an opportunity for a new beginning. Unfortunately, the discussion of post-divorce goals is often overlooked in the divorce process, leaving many people unprepared for the next chapter of their lives. Setting clear goals during divorce mediation isn’t just about looking ahead; it’s a powerful tool for creating agreements that align with your vision for the future.

Why Are Goals Important?
Goals give you something to look forward to after the divorce is finalized. Whether it’s going back to school, returning to the workforce after years as a stay-at-home parent, or starting a new business, having a vision for your future can be incredibly motivating. These aspirations are also essential when drafting a separation agreement, as they help anticipate potential changes to your schedule or finances. For example, if one parent plans to return to school or start a job, their availability for co-parenting may shift, and it’s better to address this upfront to avoid surprises later.

Goals Aren’t Just for You—They’re for Your Children Too
Divorce often involves shared goals for your children, such as paying for college, buying their first car, or supporting them academically. Discussing these objectives during mediation ensures that financial planning for your children’s future is incorporated into the separation agreement. This collaborative approach not only reduces future conflict but also helps maintain a united front when it comes to supporting your children.

The Power of Visualization
To help my clients focus on their goals, I provide a goal worksheet before mediation. This worksheet encourages clients to think about where they want to be emotionally, financially, and professionally after the divorce. Visualizing your future can be empowering and provides a clear direction for the mediation process.

By incorporating goal-setting into divorce mediation, we create a foundation for smoother transitions, fewer surprises, and a future built with intention. Divorce may close one chapter, but with clear goals, the next one can be filled with growth, opportunity, and hope.